What would you attempt if you knew you wouldn't fail? Have you ever pondered this question before? Interesting thought isn't it? How bad will you fail if you don't attempt at all? Pretty miserably.
When I was in my twenties I was afraid of my own shadow. Everything scared me. I was afraid to learn to drive in case I wrecked my car. Afraid to be a parent in case I messed up being a parent. Afraid to be involved in a close relationship because I didn't want to get hurt. Afraid to do anything that involved any type of risk.
As I have gotten older I have evolved, as we all usually do. The things I used to be afraid of don't scare me anymore. I've realized how short life really is and not one of us will come out of this life alive, so I'm determined to live my life to the fullest. Once you do allow yourself to experience life without fear, it makes you free. You're willing to try new things and explore things you never thought you could, or would.
Those who are afraid will die a thousand deaths, before their actual death and that's no way to live. If you're constantly afraid of everything you do, you'll be sure to have a pretty miserable existence.
When you try new things there's always an element of risk. This risk is what keeps the fearful away. Everyone is afraid of the unknown. We aren't afraid of the nice, comfortable little cocoons we build for ourselves. These cocoons are predictable. We know what our life is like, we have a certain amount of control over our day and we can rest assured that we'll be pretty safe.
The problem with our little cocoon is that in order to be healthy, we humans need grow. We need mental and physical stimulation in order to thrive. We need to love and feel loved. These things require us to step outside our liittle cocoons and risk a little. We can't grow if we don't try new things, step outside the box and explore the world around us. We can't feel love if we don't risk opening our heart and letting people in.
When I was a kid I learned to swim, as most kids do, but I was afraid of the water. I was always so afraid of water that I wouldn't let my face get wet when I was in a pool. Although I learned to swim, I couldn't put my head under water, because I was afraid I would drown. For many years, this continued.
When I got married my husband was a fish. By that I don't mean I married a fish. I mean he swam like one and he loved the water. He had always owned a boat and loved to water ski. I always envied people like him, because I couldn't jump in the water, I was too afraid I would get my face wet and die.
One day my husband asked me if I would like to have a jet-ski. I looked at him like he was out of his mind and told him there was no way I would ever get on one of those things . After several days of him badgering me to get his and her's jet-skis, I agreed.
He came home the next day with the most beautiful bright yellow set of skis and I immediately felt pressured to learn how to use them. I didn't want to let him down, but I just wasn't the kind of person that hops on a jet ski and rides off into the sunset. I'd heard horror stories of folks flipping them and dying. But, I promised him I'd learn to ride the darn thing and learn I did. I was petrified at first and wouldn't go more than 10 miles an hour.
That was 3 years ago. I'm now a crazy chick on my jet ski. I whiz in and out of ski courses and top out at about 60 miles per hour. It's the most free feeling in the world. The warm summer breeze hitting your skin as you fly through the water completely carefree. It's amazing. Because I love my jet ski so much, I can also be found jumping in the lake without worry of drowning. I have finally realized that I can swim and I don't even need a life jacket. I love my jet ski so much that I can be found on the lake with it in the middle of November, with a wet suit on of course.
So many things like this happen in your life if you just allow them to. Don't be self-limiting. Get on the bike and ride it till the wheels fall off. Once they fall off, stick-em back on and ride it some more. You'll be sorry one day if you don't. Don't put limitations on yourself. They're only limitations in your own mind. You can do whatever you put your mind to, but if you tell yourself you can't do something, guess what? You won't be able to do it! As my Mother used to say to me, "Can't never could do anything". She was so right. If only I would have listened to her back then. She was a very wise woman. Fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy, just as much as success is. Believe you can't and you will never be able to. Believe you can and you will succeed.
One other thing I've realized is this: If I do fail at something it doesn't define me! So freaking what? I failed. Big deal, I get back up and try again. Failure really isn't that bad. Use it as a learning experience and not as something to push you back into your miserable little scaredy-cat cocoon again. I may have failed, but I am not and never will be a failure.
Think you're not smart enough to get through nursing school? Not disciplined enough to lose weight? You are! Stop listening to that little devil in your brain. It will try to take you down every single time. remember it's so easy to live in that cocoon and repeat the same old routine every day, never learning new things or expanding your horizons. You'll never achieve anything if you don't risk. Risk taking will set you free and what a wonderful feeling that is.
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